It finally happened – I had “the dream”. The dream where you
slide into bed, and wrap your arms around me. You’re telling me that you are
here with me and will not leave me again. I can smell you, touch you. I literally squeeze your arm and smell it, knowing that it is you and I
begin to cry. I repeatedly ask “why”, to which I get no real answer. I’ve read
about widows having these dreams; sometimes bringing comfort, sometimes
bringing sadness. While desiring to have such a dream, I have really been dreading it
as well. Because I know that I won’t want to wake up and I won’t want it to
end. Sadly, it does – abruptly. I’m not certain what woke me up, but I
desperately attempted to get back to sleep, to that dream – that smell – and that
touch! I continued to close my eyes and concentrate, but It never happened. I
never went back to sleep, and now I am left sad, lonely and wanting you desperately.
I could be in a room with a thousand people right now and still be alone. I am
reaching deep within myself to keep going and stay strong. I love you Babe, and my heart
is aching terribly tonight.
Friday, November 29, 2013
Thursday, November 28, 2013
Happy(?) Thanksgiving!
Where do I start?!?!? I was determined to NOT be sad today
and be gracious and thankful for all that is in my life at this moment. I must say that
I deserve a gold star for effort, but around 11am caught myself being quite
lonely and missing you terribly. All I could think about for several hours was
what I WASN’T thankful for, and that is your wonderful smile missing from my
new "WW lyfe".
I continued on with baking the feast, even though there are
only 2 of us here. How do you cook for two, when you overcook for 3? It’s
impossible – we will be eating today’s feast all weekend! I never thought I’d
be here a year ago. I had pictured us together (finally), after living apart
most of the time for 3 years. I could see us getting excited about decorating
for Christmas and enjoying just being together.
I am determined that the house will be decorated for
Christmas, as I don’t want to “stand out” in the neighborhood (LoL). I watched
a tearjerker on Hallmark Channel last night about a widow who didn’t want to
celebrate Christmas, yet didn’t want pity either. So she didn’t decorate or put
up a tree. I thought “Wow! If she didn’t want pity, she would have hidden her
grief just a little better!” Stupid script writers! I didn’t watch it to the
end, as it really was sappy and depressing all at once (typical Hallmark), but
it did give me some insight to what I need to do to carry on! I WILL do all
that I can to remember your fun-loving spirit, and I will hang up your
decorations. I am sure that there will be moments of sadness and that I will
stumble many times. I WILL pick myself up, dust myself off, and continue our
traditions. Love you Babe, and I am so thankful that I had you in my life for
33 years!
Sunday, November 24, 2013
“You can call it another lonely day . . .”
Lyrics from “Go Your Own Way” (Fleetwood Mac)
Just when I think that things are turning the corner
something else happens. Well your son (yes, YOUR son) took the keys to the car
in the middle of the night to go “joyriding” in the rain. Joyride and Rain don’t
really work well together, and Friday night was no exception. I was awakened by
the City’s “finest” at about 4am yesterday morning to learn that the car had
been wrecked and abandoned somewhere in the City. Your son came home soon
afterward spewing some crap about being carjacked. It didn’t take the police
long to figure out that he was lying (the eyewitness accounts didn’t help his
situation either). After spending almost 30 minutes listening to the bull, your
son finally confessed that he wrecked the car, got scared and abandoned it.
Who, in their right mind, abandons a car?!?!?!? I was beyond angry and upset.
Thankfully no one was hurt and the only property damage was to a city water
valve (and the car). Your son was left with 2 citations and gets to go to court
in 10 days (lucky him). The car was towed and I don’t have access to it until
Monday – so I am screwed yet again (and not in a fun way either). As the day grew on so did my anger. I finally
blew up at about 10pm (yeah, right before bed – why do I do that?!?!?!) and
yelled obscenities at your son and feeling my anger just boiling over (yes, he
IS still YOUR son). After going off on a tangent, I realized that I was angry
at much more than a wrecked car – I am still very angry that you left me this
way. I try so hard to be accepting and forgiving, but being alone is so hard to
forgive.
Most days it takes all my strength to get up and begin the
day – today was one of those. I am sure it has to do with the “screaming
hangover” from last night. Oh, and I had to work today, so here I was
attempting to wake what few brain cells I have and saunter to work like everything
is ok (wearing the mask). When will this feeling stop?!?! I am so tired of it – and wanting
things to be the way they were! I don’t want another lonely day, but anticipate
many more before I accept my new WW life. Why can’t I just turn back the hands
of time or just touch and see you once more, saying everything that I didn’t
get to say?!?!?! Your son is hurting too, I am sure he is asking many of the same
questions that I am. Yeah, he is STILL your son, and I love him (almost as much
as I love you)!
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